Can stress kill you?


Can stress kill you?

Stress is your body’s way of responding to any kind of demand or threat. When you feel threatened, your nervous system responds by releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol, which rouse the body for emergency action. Your heart pounds faster, muscles tighten, blood pressure rises, breath quickens, and your senses become sharper. These physical changes increase your strength and stamina, speed your reaction time, and enhance your focus.

Stress can be caused by a physical or emotional change, or a change in your environment that requires you to adjust or respond. Things that make you feel stressed are called “stressors.” Stressors can be minor hassles, major lifestyle changes, or a combination of both.

I have watched interesting programs like The Restoration Man and Grand Designs where I believe the home owners who bought those run down properties experienced a lot of stress to build their new homes. They built them making them architecturally brilliant or they updated a dilapidated Listed building. A listed building is a building or structure which is protected because it is considered to be of special architectural or historic interest.

When the home owners ran out of money during the project which happened on many occasions you would see them struggle to get the monies required to complete the project. Banks gave an approved mortgage before the build where it was agreed they would give money according to the amount of building works that were completed but then decided to withdraw the monies when due during the build.

Some of the owners literally had a heart attack during the project. Whenever I watch these programs I anticipate that there will be a moment during the film that the home owner shows signs of stress and getting ill from attempting the build of his or her new home. Of course some of these home owners had other illnesses which could trigger the heart attack but the stress just made it more likely to happen.

One of the  most stressful things in life are moving home. I think it takes a lot of guts for these people to start such a big project when with the same money they could have bought a ready made home perhaps one which is smaller but still a ready made one all the same. We have one life and when we are gone we cannot enjoy what we have left behind. Is it worth all the hassle? I wonder whether it is better to spend that money in another way like taking a boat cruise or travelling around the world. I believe on reflection that we all need to look after ourselves physically and mentally more.

We should pamper ourselves more as this alleviates stress by having an aromatherapy massage or reflexology massage. I know this because I am qualified with VAI Diploma- 1999 in Aromatherapy and Reflexology and when I have felt personally stressed I get these treatments done to me. Spending money to pamper yourself outweighs anything else as no matter how much you spend on your new rebuild for example if you do not relax you could make yourself sick.

We always want to achieve more and more in our life. The richest usually want to buy bigger better homes than they have already but then if they never have children who would those wonderful homes go to when they die? I guess that most of us have relatives it can go to but all that work and energy to what avail? Our relatives will probably just sell it?

In the case of Graceland which was the home of Elvis Presley, after he died in 1977 neither his daughter nor his ex wife live there. It is now a museum.

Graceland is a mansion on a 13.8-acre (5.6 ha) estate in Memphis, Tennessee that was home to Elvis Presley. It is located at 3764 Elvis Presley Boulevard in the vast Whitehaven community about 9 miles (14.5 km) from Downtown and less than four miles (6 km) north of the Mississippi border.[5] It currently serves as a museum. It was opened to the public on June 7, 1982. The site was listed in the National Register of Historic Places on November 7, 1991, and declared a National Historic Landmark on March 27, 2006. Graceland has become one of the most-visited private homes in America with over 600,000 visitors a year, behind the White House[6] and Biltmore Estate.[7]

Elvis Presley died at the estate on August 16, 1977. Presley, along with his parents Gladys and Vernon Presley, and his grandmother, are buried there in what is called the Meditation Garden. A memorial gravestone for Presley’s stillborn twin brother, Jesse Garon, is also at the site.

I talk about Elvis Presley as an example of the pointlessness of creating too much stress for yourself to then die and not enjoy the fruits of your work. What Elvis Presley earned went to charities and his family. He died at 42 years old of a heart attack. Elvis Presley did not die of a heart attack due to the stress of having Graceland but due to his own demons which were drugs, overeating and I believe losing his wife and child as his wife Priscilla divorced him many years before he had the heart attack. Elvis also suffered from insomnia which causes stress so there are many factors that can lead to stress build up.

It is not rocket science to realise that we all want more in our lives and are never content with what we have. If only we could change this pattern of thinking in the world. If we earned a lot of money we should think of the poor and needy whom we could help before buying that amazing manor or castle for ourselves. When Elvis Presley died he had $6 million to his name as he kept giving his money away.

Stress is a normal part of life. Many events that happen to you and around you, and many things that you do yourself, put stress on your body. You can experience stress from your environment, your body and your thoughts.

I conclude myself that stress can kill you. But if you don’t agree, when you get stressed and start hyperventilating think of how far you are from having a heart attack? Take care of the physical and mental side of yourself and try holistic therapy which treats the individual’s body, spirit, and mind. You may cheat death in this way but note you can not cheat death forever as on-going stress only makes a person more and more ill until it is too late. Look after yourself now and remember stress is not age related.

Death can happen to anyone at any age as it brings on the same symptoms. I had a good friend David who died at 35 years old due to stress and over working. He was not sleeping for many nights in a row working hard as an electrician to reach his goal. Stress does that. It makes you have sleepless nights, worrying about the problem at hand. My friend died before he could reach his destination. He had other issues. His wife left him saying she did not love him and kept the family home. She had custody of their son. David threw himself into work. I never saw him drink or smoke. I believe he was very sad inside. I could see that in his eyes when he spoke about his son and how he still really loved his wife.

I was not a psychic tarot cards reader at that time as I had just graduated with my Psychology degree and was trying to start up a new business in lettings. If only I had known then what I know now maybe I could have helped David to improve his life style and advised him to see a doctor or therapist before it was too late. I was 21 years old and had little understanding at that time of the real world. I was really immature and trying to understand the meaning of life which is probably why I studied Psychology in the first place.

I made many mistakes myself in my young years just from lack of experience of life. I never let stress dominate my life however and I would get stressed many times. Thinking back now I knew that David would work 3 days in a row without sleeping and that should have been a sign that he was not respecting his health and wellbeing. No extra money earned is worth lack of sleep. David would do this on most of his jobs. Normally we all work an 8 hour shift, rest and then sleep 8 hours. I could never have known that David would die.

Stress is a silent killer.

Tina Sawhney  – Psychic Tarot Cards Reader
BSc Hons Psychology, VAI Diploma in Aromatherapy & Reflexology
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How do you know when someone you love is using you?


How do you know when someone you love is using you?

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With the increasing rise of divorce and single parents in all parts of the world, we should learn the recipe to happiness. Some people may know the recipe to happiness which is wonderful but what about the rest of us? How can we protect ourselves from a broken heart? Who am I to say I know the recipe? I don’t.

I can only guide you to avoid you being caught in the hands of a fraud. There are so many people out there trying to get our money, get leave to stay in the uk by marrying a British Citizen. The demand for this is so high that the fraudsters feel nothing for you but will do anything to get what they want including pretend they love you, shower you with gifts and sweet words until they get what they want. After that you are nothing and they walk out without even looking back at you.

You were nothing to them from the beginning. Just a tool to get from A to B. Do not believe that you are so special that they love you and only love you. Of course some may be genuine but when you are in love you do not see what is in front of you. Listen to what others are saying including your family. They can usually see the real thing; the live performance in front of their eyes. But you know what, we are always right, isn’t it?

So now to the answer to this question: How do you know when someone you love is using you? Unless you spend a lot of physical time with your partner or friend they cannot love you. The number of hours you spend together are vital. I understand quality is important too but in relationships a bond cannot happen without the physical time spent. This is my experience of love. There will be many out there to disagree with me but I know that you can not love someone by not being with them and just being on the phone all the time for example. Distant relationships can work if the 2 people have spent a lot of time together before being parted. Remember that after being parted, distance can always cause a barrier to the relationship blossoming also. They say distance makes the heart grow fonder. That is true too but not so much distance that you do not see other for months on end and the other person takes consolation in someone new who lives nearer to them. Of course this depends on the strength of your love with that person before you separated also.

If you find that your partner does not want to spend time with you as much as he or she does with their friends then you need to wonder why he or she is with you? Arguing with your partner about this will not give you the true answer. Silence speaks a thousand words. I am a Psychic tarot cards reader and I believe we all need to meditate and take some me time alone to think about each day that passes. Close your eyes and perhaps rest on the sofa just thinking. You can of course do this sitting at your desk but not staring at the computer. You do not even need to close your eyes but you do need to close all other thoughts out of your mind and just think about the problem at hand. Be calm and relaxed when doing this breathing normally.

Intuition and gut feelings will give you the answer. Children and babies use this innate power to tell whether a person is good or evil. They can usually sense the good or bad aura of a person when they enter the room. If you have kids check this out yourself. I studied Psychology to degree level and one of the most interesting things I found out about babies is that they even know if it is a boy or girl baby in front of them while both are fully clothed. You know babies look the same at birth and afterwards for a long time. However it is the dilation of their eyes that are different when they are in front of a boy or girl. This has been scientifically proven. it would be normal for a baby to be apprehensive of strangers as we should also be. Babies are more vulnerable physically and mentally but are we not the same even as adults. The amount of damage strangers have done to adults. We are usually very trusting when we have grown up thinking we can tell the difference between good and evil but we are so busy rushing about in our lives that we do not notice what is really in front of us. We need to stop now and again and think about this.

So what happened to us as adults? Why did we lose that innate ability? Actually some of us still have that ability if only we would follow what our sixth sense is telling us? I urge you to follow that third sense as I do. It will help you realise the truth of your relationship which may be that you are in a good relationship even. Many times I have made excuses for friends who hardly ever visited me saying ohh they are probably just busy and have their own problems. Is that true?

Then the time came when a tragedy happened to me in my life and I got clear perspective of all the people around me. In fact the friends I believed were my true friends disappeared. My true friends turned up on my doorstep in my time of need. I loved those friends who did not contact me for a very long time after I realised they did not love me in return.

Now when I look back I realise that those friends I loved and I would shower with birthday presents every year forgot my birthday every year. They never turned up with presents like I did to their house. It is the same in a love relationship. Does he or she care or remember your Birthday or Valentines Day. He or she does not have to be a romantic and give you a present but he should be with you on that special day of yours whether it be your Birthday or Valentines Day. After all do we really want the present or do we want to spend our special time with our partner either just watching tv together or enjoying a nice takeaway together or just cooking and fighting in the kitchen all day. I think being together is the most important thing to prove love to me. I don’t need the fancy car or the diamond ring because when I leave this world I leave all that behind. I want to know that I  have spent my time here enjoying myself with my partner not staring at the diamond ring he gave me and he is not with me.

This is a subject very close to my heart due to the experiences I have had and I believe it is this previous experience that opened my eyes. People like me only realise our mistakes after making the mistakes. We cannot read a blog like this and learn from it. At least I could not. I always thought I was right. I can write for ever on this subject but this is a blog not a thesis. I would like you to spend some alone time today and think about the relationships in your life and put each one in its correct box. Do not do what I did and loved everybody when I later found they did not love me back. I am talking about friends, family and partners. Love comes in many forms and whichever form it takes it should be the real thing. We need to learn to see through the ones that want to fool us and see the ones that truly love us.

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Tina Sawhney  – Psychic Tarot Cards Reader
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What are Gut Feelings?

What are Gut Feelings?

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So what are gut feelings? Intuition allows you to get the first warning signs when anything is off in your body so that you can address it. If you have a gut feeling about your body — that something is toxic, weak or ‘off’ — listen to it.

There are many things we do not understand like gut feelings, psychic phenomena, ghosts, poltergeists, the dead which have left us, why the living treat us the way we do, partners and how to be with them. Last night it was 11pm and I was quite tired. My partner had gone to sleep when I heard someone upstairs. I jumped when I heard movement like someone walking upstairs and about the house. But all the doors were locked. I then went around to see if any were open. I was shocked to find that my back door to the garden was not locked and still had the key in the door so I quickly locked it. Then I was afraid that it was too late. Someone may be in the house. I went upstairs to find no-one there.

I wondered whether my guardian angel had pre warned me that someone would have come in the night if I had not realised and locked the back door. I always lock the doors but I must have forgotten that one door. I usually never forgot. This has never happened to me before. I knew that I had been warned by the other world. Just in time. I had even heard movement in the garden last night when I heard that noise and things seemed moved when I looked this morning at the garden. It was not gut feelings as normally I never check the doors and certainly do not hear that noise upstairs. I did actually hear a noise last night outside.

We will all find that we are given signals in our life by the other world to help us in this present life to make the right decisions. It can be in the form of gut feelings but also like I heard strange noises upstairs in my house also last night. There was no-one upstairs but why did I hear that noise. I believe that noise was made deliberately by my guardian angel causing me to go upstairs and around the house to check all windows and doors were shut. Listen to that world. We miss things in life otherwise. You can avoid disasters if you listen to that sound inside your head telling you what you should do.

We all have some psychic powers if we can connect with them. Too busy to listen to the signs, either running around, working, cooking, watching kids, visiting people, travelling. We do not notice things. Silence and meditation can help us hear those signals and sounds. Self help books can also help us make the right decisions. Reading is so empowering and teaches us so much. I have spent most of my life reading books and trying to understand people. But we are all learning about people, aren’t we, all the time?

Tina Sawhney  – Psychic Tarot Cards Reader
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Is becoming a tarot reader satisfying and does it make mega bucks?


Is becoming a tarot reader satisfying and does it make mega bucks?

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I started reading tarot cards for people in 2003. Before that I was mystified by what tarot cards were and how they came to be. I once did a ougie board after school in the classroom with a group of classmates when I was 12 but the board spelt out goat meaning the devil and us kids we all ran out of the classroom scared witless. None of us ever contemplated doing that again and I am glad as by us children innocently playing the ougie board we could have unwittingly brought evil spirits to hound us in this world. We got off lightly. I never did that again!

I would get tarot readings done by different fortune tellers when I was at college or studying to be a graduate and then even after that. I was fascinated by divination and the occult but too scared to learn to do tarot readings myself and plus I did not think I had the skills to do it.  A few years before 2003 I started seeing one tarot reader. She was very good. I could never understand how she knew what was coming ahead of me in my future as my past was a mixture of things that had not made me happy. I wanted to move on but did not know how to. She taught me how to do tarot readings as she had prepared lessons to learn tarot that all her customers could buy.

My profession in my twenties was a Lettings Manager in London and I did that for 23 years. It was very difficult managing tenants and property maintenance so after spending half my life doing that I decided I had had enough and packed that in. I sold up shop and moved on. I decided to put my heart and soul into my tarot readings which was what I started with actually as I did my degree in Psychology. I was always interested in this field. I had worked with elderly and mentally retarded and handicapped children and adults before I worked in the letting field.

Building a business is never easy especially when you do not have the background for it. I should have studied business management to degree level or learnt to become a programmer as it seems nowadays that is where the mega bucks are apart from the accountants, lawyers and the usual NHS profession which none of us can live without.

If you are thinking whether you should learn to become a tarot reader or not I would say the answer is yes as it is highly rewarding. You will get to meet and speak to many different types of people with varied problems. Some are obsessed with their careers and getting to the top and some just want a family and not much more. Then there are those who have suffered a tragedy in their lifetime like myself but we all get through it as it is survival of the fittest after all. I am a survivor and I think you are too because you are reading this.

Coming back to the question: Is becoming a tarot reader satisfying and does it make mega bucks? I have found becoming a tarot reader very satisfying as I have helped many people get back their pride and self esteem and are able to move on with their life leaving the bad times behind. This includes following the right career pathway as well as the correct passage to love. There are evil powers trying to pull us down throughout our life and the angels of heaven pull us out.

I am sure you have all experienced a deja vu experience where we see something and recognise that we had already seen that event either before or in our dreams. Making mega bucks is not why I decided to become a tarot reader and if you think like that then you can never be a good tarot reader. Remember the reason why you wanted to learn to do tarot readings. You can make mega bucks if you diversify and get other psychics to do your work and take a commission from each booking or you can dwell on writing your own ebooks of knowledge and on learning how to do tarot readings, writing blogs and writing articles constantly for the newspaper or other media so you are picked up by many new customers. Can you put in the hard work to make the mega bucks?

I wrote this to make you think whether this is the pathway you want to take? It is not easy to make a lot of money in this field without putting in years of hard graft. It takes a long time also to learn the meanings of the 78 tarot cards in a tarot deck and then to apply the knowledge to real customers. I studied the Rider Waite Tarot Cards as this is my favourite deck. You need to spend a lot of quiet time in a kind of semi meditation state. You must open your mind to the cards and fathom out the story the cards are trying to tell you. I wanted to rock your world and make you realise that I really enjoy reading tarot cards for people and I want you to enjoy it too. I would say to everybody give it a shot if you enjoy helping people. We are well aware that the body needs help when we are ill or when we get old. But what about the mind? It also needs consoling and counselling. Some people are able to manage this aspect themselves whereas there are others that don’t trust their intuition or gut feelings to follow what is so clearly the right pathway. I would not call the latter weak but I would say that those people have intentionally decided to find out what is the right pathway to take? So which is better? Both are correct as they are leading their life the way they feel best. Learning to read the tarot cards are like learning a new language. It is a language of pictures and the tarot reader is assessing meanings to the pictures and relaying it back to the querent to make them understand what the cards are trying to tell him or her.

In answer to my question: Is becoming a tarot reader satisfying and does it make mega bucks? Tarot reading is a personal thing so I can only speak for myself. I find it very satisfying and no it does not make me mega bucks but then I did not go into doing this to make big money. I would like to share my knowledge and powers to help people. We come into this world with nothing and we leave this world with nothing but memories of us remain. What type of a legacy would you like to leave? I would hope to be remembered for what I gave back to this world. Wouldn’t you?

Tina Sawhney  – Psychic Tarot Cards Reader
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